As I get older, I realize more it’s the relationships you develop that add depth to your life. Not just love or sex. Yes… relationships are about people: lovers, friends and family, etc. But it’s also about life and the world and how we experience things.
I know many people that have lives spanning a continuum of contacts and transactional one-and-done events or shallow experiences and that’s part of everyone’s life. But I can’t imagine an ongoing existence like that, a long thin line. A mere thread. I know people that have that kind of life and I guess it works for them. Me, I’d rather have a thick rope that can bear weight. A strong mooring line.
And I think some people (at least I know I do) get the most enjoyment and value out of things over one layer deep. It could be the richness of a color (like you could dip your finger in it), the texture of fine wood, the look and feel of its grain, the savor of food or drink, the subtleties and nuances of a well-written book or well-scripted movie or TV show and the way music makes us feel when it all works to strike a deep chord within us. Those are moments of simple, unadulterated, beauty. They add depth and breadth to life.
It’s the same for me with the quality of interaction with other people… the joy of an intelligent discussion, subtle (and sometimes not so subtle) humor, and conversation.
I hope we all appreciate the special moments, appreciate the people we meet and engage with… appreciate the valuable things we have and experience in life. They are what moor us in this world.